The misappropriation of ‘bisexual’ into the collective initialism of LGBTQ remains one of the worst things to happen to human sexuality since the days of Leviticus.
It’s bad enough that both sides of the sexuality fence have wasted humanity’s precious time embattled over the black and white issue of straight versus gay but to drag bisexual people into this self-centered mess has no conscious behind it. Gay people’s action of taking “something for one’s own use, typically without the owner’s permission,” did a great disservice to bisexual people and to the future of our sexually.
Had bisexual people been allowed to evolve on their own, independent and unencumbered – our impact would have had major positive effects on socio-sexual behaviors in society, with little or no disruptive battle lines drawn to cause the opposing, controversial groups who dominate sexuality to this day.
Same-gender and opposite-gender attraction and sex are beautiful as long as they are not codified, and, as long as they are not shoved into a box canyon or considered the expected norm. If homo-sapiens are in need of a norm there is no question that bisexuality is best suited to the task.
Having and keeping the “B” in LGBTQ works entirely in the favor of LGQ’s. It does very little for bisexuals. The LGQ’s need bisexuals much more than bisexuals need them.
Lumping bisexuals in with homosexuals is the same to me as lumping bisexuals in with the heterosexuals. By doing so, the LGQ’s have effectively denied bisexual people a rightful place of their own and has jeopardized our future. It would be equally offensive to me if the straights had misappropriated our bisexual lifestyle.
Whether one thinks of themselves as bisexual, pansexual, demisexual, polysexual, ominsexual, polyamorous or “labelless” attractive – we are the best future for human sexuality and the peace of humanity.
A good resource to better understand the world of bisexuality today is “Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World” (Second Edition). http://robynochs.com/getting-bi/
~Vidda
Take the “T” Out of LGBTQ?
In this article “Take the “B” Out of LGBTQ” I did not address the “T” because I am not transgender. However, while the LGQ people presume to include transgender people under their umbrella, I have heard some “T’s” are in dissent of being included. Like bisexuals, transgender and transsexual people should not be placed under the homosexual banner of the LGQ since “T” people are not necessarily homosexual.
Their self identify is based more on their gender identity, than their sexual preferences.
What future for bisexual
What future for bisexual people has been jeopardized? What lifestyle is being misappropriated?
What it feels like to enjoy mutual orgasm with other men
Any select groups or classes of people have a right of self-determination. For example, in the beginning years after Stonewall when homosexuals decided to form a collective of LGQ, its purpose was to identify themselves in a public acknowledgement of their lifestyle. By organizing into a group it lent support for gays to be recognized for who they are and what place in society they wish to be accepted. Their right of self-determination helped them to gain favorable laws, economic advantages, and greater social acceptance.
In the early days after the ‘revolt’ and for many years following, too many bisexuals were affected by a gay bias. It wasn’t unusual then for bisexuals to be denigrated as confused and told to make up their minds, etc. During the mid-eighties, as younger people were embracing their bisexuality, there were no organizations to give them equal status. And during the eighties, without any public discussion, the “B” was incorporated into the LGQ’s, later followed by incorporating the “T.”
Back then, I remember other bi-people I talked to were not happy with the inclusion with homosexuals. It was an assumption by the LGQ’s that led them to arbitrarily including Bi’s, and then later Tranz people.
Combining Bi’s with Gays diminishes the individual uniqueness of Bi’s and helps to mislead people to assume there is a connection. Just because Bi’s have sex with women and men does not mean that Bi’s are homosexual. They (we) are not.
I think anyone can understand how much a society that actively appreciates and has sex with both genders will foster a greater unity of humanity and greater peaceful continuance of human sexually with far less conflict and controversy that separates gays and straights to this very day.
For instance, would men just as easily kill other men as they do now if they had a greater sense of what it feels like to enjoy the immense benefits of mutual orgasm with other men, as they feel about women?
Bisexual culture is far better attuned to peaceful coexistence..
It is impossible to have an entirely gay or straight society. Therefore, the tangible benefits of a mixed homosexual and heterosexual culture are available only to those separated portions of society.
It is entirely possible, however, to have an entire bisexual society. Therefore, the tangible benefits of bisexuality are available to everyone, as each to his or her own wants and needs, without prejudice.
It is my thinking and suggestion that a bisexual culture is far better attuned to peaceful coexistence than the reckless endangerment of this overly moralized sexually divided culture that keeps a wedge between sexually active humans, as it is now.
Since this topic isn’t new in discussions I’ve had with groups and friends, I’ve heard comments from them comparing this philosophy to our cousins of the Bonobo culture (which I greatly admire)…unfortunately, too often in a joking manner.
Men, much more than women, are human killing machines.
It is my contention that bisexuality facilitates men who make love, have sex and other intimacies with other men (and with women, of course) would be more tolerant in other aspects of love, and to be less likely to so readily kill one another as they do now.
Another example why strip the "B" from LGBTQ
Letter Box today: “My own convictions regarding LGBTQ … friends and neighbors is thus: “You don’t have to be ‘gay’ to love one another — nobody does. Thousands of ex-gays testify to this.” Also “God loves all LGBTQ … persons; He offers constant love, compassion, forgiveness, reconciliation, and new life as the person each one is meant to be, from the moment of conception and even before. And God does not make mistakes; even though we often do.”
Dave Garrecht Guilford, April 15
http://www.reformer.com/letterstotheeditor/ci_27965415/letter-garrecht-responds-criticism
Sometimes when I read people’s views like this it dismays me to think how primitive the minds of ‘man’ can yet be. Are believers so dazzled by their own zeal that they can’t see the artifacts of mythos cluttering their minds?
This line from Garrecht “Thousands of ex-gays testify to this” is beyond belief.
Ex-gays?? Is this guy for real?
It’s likely that if we had retained our innate polysexual behavior biologic from ancient times, and not sullied by the awful Jukrislims, human sexuality and peace on earth would have been in better standing than in this divisive religiosio nonsense we have to put up with today.